How to Break Up With Boyfriend or Girlfriend

While ending a relationship is a hard thing to do, the fact is that when a relationship has gone sour, someone has to make the move to end it, the truth is that many relationships last long beyond the "expire by" date just because breaking up is hard to do.

Sometimes a break up happens in dramatic fashion way, with clothes being thrown out of a second story window, other times the relationship just peters out until someone says, that is it, we breaking up.

How to break up with boyfriend or girlfriend so that neither party gets hurt?

You need to get clear on why you want to terminate the relationship between both of you, the immediate reason that jumps into your mind may not be the real reason, once you get this clear, the next step in ending a relationship is to get honest, that means that in your discussion with your partner that you are true to yourself and to them.

In general, it is better to do it in person rather than over the phone, but if distance is an issue in the relationship, you should do it sooner than wait for a time you can get together, if you want to stay friends after the break up, you need to conclude the romantic ties with love and compassion.

Don't put your partner on the defensive, talk about the things you've learned and the memories you will cherish that have come from your love, your partner may become very emotional during this time. You need to respond to their needs, don't take anything personally when ending a relationship, your partner may say things they don't really mean, let these words roll off of your back.

Your partner may need to meet with you more than once to conclude the relationship, or maybe they might need some space, give your ex what they need to get through the transition time but don't let them make you feel guilty, you're ready to begin a new phase in your life and it will not include a romantic relationship with your ex, it is best if you retain a positive relationship of some sort with them, but if you are ending the relationship for the right reasons, it is best for both of you.

Should you ever consider reconnecting? Does ending a relationship always mean the end? That is something you have to decide, virtually all relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met, if you have the time and are willing to make the effort you can get through this period as an even stronger couple, however, if you are determined to walk away, it's best to end a relationship with a clean break and move on.