Healthy relationship guidance is frequently hard to come across. There is a bunch of nonsense written about how you should pay no attention to her or worse go out with one of her friends. Methods like these will not have a result of your ex-lover running into your arms. If you ignore her you are more likely to be ignored too. So how will you be able to win your ex-girlfriend back in 5 easy steps?
To begin with you have to recognize why the relationship tear apart in the first place? Was it your fault? If so, apologize. You must demonstrate to your girlfriend that you value her and also you should be able to confess when you make mistakes, admit when you are wrong. Apologies are old fashioned but they do work. Even if this doesn't sound like a declaration of love, you still need to do it.
Once that is out of the way, you should begin to persuade her again. Demonstrate to her what she is missing. Look for ways to jog her memory of the times you both enjoyed mutually. As an example you may perhaps stumble on a few old photographs, get them printed up and mail her a few prints. Perhaps you could find some music of her interest, find some of her favorite songs and send her an album.
Small gestures that shows prove you are serious about getting her back will work wonders. You can always attempt asking her straight what she needs. What would make her take you back? The only way to work things out is to be completely truthful with each other. You have to face any problems you had as sweeping them below the mat won't work.
Have some patience and take things slowly. You may well have hurt this woman a lot and if so it will take her some time to trust you again. However with perseverance and determination and some romance you should be able to have a second chance. After all, at one point she obviously loved you and what you need now is to restore those feelings.
Look for ways to tell her what you think of her. You may possibly send her flowers or chocolates. Perhaps you could convince her to come out on a couple of dates with you. Show her a very good time. Help her remember the good times both of you had but, whatever you do, don't put any pressure on her to take you back.